Domestic violence may include:

  1. Verbal

  2. Emotional

  3. Psychological

  4. Financial

  5. Sexual

  6. Physical

The Vicious Cycle of Domestic Violence

The Cycle of Violence is a repetitive and sometimes predictable pattern of abuse that happens in an intimate relationship.

Phase 1

The Tension Building Phase. In this phase the person feels like they are walking on eggshells. Tension is high and they are anticipating a conflict. This phase can last days, several weeks or even months.

Phase 2

The Incident Phase, which often includes a violent or high conflict episode. This may include physical violence but not always. It is often in Phase 2 that a victim will reach out for support.

Phase 3

The last Phase is commonly known as the “Honeymoon” phase. This is when the abusive partner may apologize for what happened in Phase 2, make promises to change and may even seek out help for themselves.

Types of Domestic Violence

There is help for Victims of Domestic Abuse

Leaving an Abusive Relationship

Leaving an abusive relationship is very hard to do. One of the most common observations by friends and family who find out you are living in an abusive relationship is “why don’t you leave?” or “you should leave”, but the reality is that it’s not just a matter of taking your things and going. Your abuser may have systems of control around you, you may feel guilty or blame yourself, have children involved, be physically threatened, or be financially controlled.

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A woman stands against a stone wall, holding her hands to the sides of her head. She has a serious expression on her face. Her t-shirt displays the text 'People ≠ Products' and '#StopTheDemand'. The image is in black and white, adding a dramatic effect.

Plan a safe escape

  • Communicate with someone you trust

  • Identify safe areas in your house

  • Establish a safe communication line

  • Know your abusers tendencies, triggers, and red flags

  • Be ready to leave immediately

  • Get medications ahead of time

Local Resources

Russell House Family Crisis Services

(800) 998-8340

Casa Guadalupe Family Growth Center

(888)-228-8122

National Domestic Violence Hotline

(800) 799-7233